Teen Esteem Council » self-esteem

What Should I Do If My Friends Keep Lying To Me?

Mat Edvik — Sat, 21 Apr 2012 15:20:25 +0000

Today we have a guest on the show. She shares some of the challenges that she has had with some of her friends at a young age. Peer pressure, pathological lies, and relational agression. Our guest shares her some of her experiences and our council shares theirs. Navigating the waters of friendship as a teen can be difficult. Hopefully their experiences and how they have grown from them can help you as you work on the relationships with your friends.

Self Esteem Vs. Flattery

Mat Edvik — Sun, 11 Mar 2012 00:20:16 +0000

Does flattery help someone really build self esteem? Chantel begins our conversation about this topic with a quote from Randy Pausch. Then we discuss how to make sure that your compliments really build people up, rather than flatter them.

Small Commitments Can Make a Big Difference

jasmine — Sat, 26 Nov 2011 15:50:32 +0000

We hope that everyone had a great Thanksgiving holiday.

Today we discuss the 3rd pillar of self-esteem… making small commitments to yourself. When you accomplish something small by keeping a commitment to yourself, your self esteem goes up. When you break a commitment to yourself, even a small one, it has a negative effect on how you feel about yourself.

Brianna joins our discussion again and gives some personal examples that we can all relate to. Mat confesses his powerlessnes against candy and treats. Summer gives everyone a challenge to accomplish during the week.

Personal Choices Vs. Social Choice or Meeting Brianna

jasmine — Sat, 19 Nov 2011 21:44:59 +0000

Before I get into the podcast description I want to announce the addition of another member of the Teen Esteem Council. Her name is Brianna and, as you will find out in this podcast, she is wonderful.

Today’s podcast continues our discussion of the 4 pillars (I will give anyone a $25 gift certificate if they can come up with a better term for pillars than pillars) that we started last week. This week we talk about choices. Brianna has some great insights as we discuss why teenagers choose to do some of the things that they do.

When Life Just Isn’t Working

Mat Edvik — Sun, 13 Nov 2011 01:08:39 +0000

Summer and I had a marvelous opportunity to speak at the 24th Annual Conference on Child Abuse & Family Violence. We want to thank those who made the presentation possible. We also want to thank those who chose to come to our workshop on helping teen girls develop a positive self-esteem.

We had a lot of stories that we did not have time to share at the conference, so we thought that we would share some experiences that were shared with us by young women that we have worked with that have been able to develop great self esteem and create wonderful lives.

Foundations of Self Esteem with Rachel Part 2

Mat Edvik — Fri, 14 Oct 2011 17:03:05 +0000

Here is the picture that we talked about last week.

We are happy to have Rachel back with us again. Last week Rachel talked about how she realized that the paradigm, or worldview that she was living by was not working for her and how she changed it. Today she joins us to talk about the importance of making choices that take you toward what you really want in life. We also talk about how much relationahips effect the self esteem of teenage girls.

Foundations of Self Esteem with Rachel

Mat Edvik — Sun, 09 Oct 2011 01:10:03 +0000

Today we return to the content of our book, Dropping Him, Finding Me. We ask our special guest, Rachel (you will recognize her voice), how she was able to overcome many of the typical issues that teenage girls face. She is a great example of all four of the pillars of self esteem that we talk about in our book.

What Do Teen Girls Do to Compensate for Low Self Esteem

Mat Edvik — Sat, 27 Aug 2011 14:10:41 +0000

This is a topic that we could probbly do a few podcasts on. There are tons of ways that teen girls compensate for having low self esteem. One of the things that they do is to fish for compliments or try to get people to say nice things to you. This discussion talks about why relying on compliments for self esteem does not work long term.

What the Efficacy?

Mat Edvik — Sat, 13 Aug 2011 23:39:17 +0000

We talk a lot about self esteem. We have never talked about efficacy. So, what’s the difference? Why is efficacy important? Mat and Summer answer those questions and discuss how efficacy and esteem are related.

Making Journals and Diaries Exciting

Mat Edvik — Sun, 24 Jul 2011 01:12:16 +0000

Amanda does the intro today for the first time. She was nervous, but she does a great job. Summer treats us with a Tuned-In Moment. There are a lot of people who almost do an act of service for someone, but then they don’t follow through. Summer gives us an example of following through.

Today we talk about journaling. It is something that I think is super important! We talk about why journaling is important. We give you some tips that may help you start journaling or make your journaling more meaningful.

Even though we joke in the podcast about what is in our middle and high school journals, I am incredibly greateful that I wrote in them and kept them. It reminds me of how important my relationships and experiences that I had were. They are the experiences, relationships, and feelings that are shaping the rest of your life.